Dating Tip: Keep Your Pants On Ladies...

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Dating Tip: Keep Your Pants On Ladies...
You've just started dating him, the chemistry is firey hot, at what point is sex OK? The New Rules

The New Rules for Dating and Sex

Follow these guidelines to avoid the traps, save your precious time and protect your heart.

 

Keep Your Pants On...until these elements are in place. 

1. You're dating each other exclusively. 

2. Your Primary Dating Purposes are in aligment. If you're sincerely seeking marriage and kids, for example, simply do not "go there" with anyone who's not also on this same path.  If you've not yet had that conversation and you don't know the other person's longer term plan...keep your pants on...

3. You've had the touchy and oh-so-critical conversations about birth control and safe sex / STD's. Have you been tested since your last sexual relationship? Has he? It may seem unromantic, but here's how one of our recent success story couples  http://www.CupidsCoach.com handled it.  Once things started heating up and they became exclusive Steven and Margaret went into the clinic together to get tested, and then when their tests came back clean (WHEW!), they celebrated with a fanatastic bed and breakfast weekend that was off the charts romantic and joyous.

Remember high school?  We had lots of fun with our pants on, didn't we?  Sex is actually MUCH more satisfying when we've waited a while for it, and it's more along the lines of love making than cheap, casual sex.  It's worth the wait.

In twenty years of being a matchmaker, I've never gotten a call from a woman on a Monday morning saying "Darn....I wish I'd slept with that guy!"  It's the other Monday morning call that tears my heart out, when she says "What was I thinking?"

One Drink Only, ladies.  There's a one word answer for why alcohol was put on the planet.  Procreation.  We're compelled by our biology to want to have sex.  Be smarter than your biology and keep your pants on until you KNOW you're with the right guy.

Article contributed by

Julie Ferman

Dating Coach

Julie Ferman, Founder

www.JulieFerman.com

Awarded Best Matchmaker: 2013, 2012, 2011, 2010 by iDate and Online Personals Watch

Location: Westlake Village, CA
Credentials: Other
Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Life Management, Matchmaking
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