5 Ways You Accidentally Start Fights

Do you ever feel your partner knows just how to push your buttons and off you go? Or no matter what you say, he/she flies off the handle? It's no fun to argue with someone you care about and yet we do it all too often. Even when it seems our partner was starting it, we know there have got to be things we ...

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4 Myths About Online Dating

Recently a reporter interviewed me for a piece they were doing on online dating. At first I was a bit stumped. As a couples therapist I tend to deal with people who already have a partner, and many of my individual therapy clients report a great variety of ...

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The Truth About Lies

As a couples therapist, one situation I’m confronted with often is when a relationship is shaken up by the discovery of a lie. It’s not always infidelity, but that is a classic example. In that first session with a couple who sees me after the discovery of an ...

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How To Have A Grown-Up Valentines Day

Most of us have been trained since childhood to anticipate Valentines Day. But there wasn't always a lot to look forward to. In fact, while some of us were celebrating V-Day in middle school and high school, others just saw it as yet another opportunity for peers to decide who's "in" and ...

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Why We Repeatedly Choose The Wrong Relationships

It seems so simple – two people are attracted to each other, and they either get along and the relationship grows or not, and so they break up and move on. But how often do relationships actually work this way? On one hand, there are ...

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