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Take A Deep Breath: 3 Ways To Help You Stop Worrying

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Do you believe that worry is preparation? If yes, then welcome to the club! Worriers get a lot of unsolicited advice from non-worriers: just relax, it's going to be fine, or my favorite: don't worry. Some advice is more clever than other. Dean Hawkes of Columbia University once famously said, "Half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision." Or, as Charlie Brown put it more amusingly, "I've developed a new philosophy ... I only dread one day at a time."

But apart from cognitive tricks and internal pep talks, is there anything concrete you can try to diminish worry? What some people don't realize is that worry is more than a cognitive phenomenon. It's physiological, too. One key to warding off unwanted anxiety is deep, diaphragmatic breathing. How you breathe has a direct impact on how you feel. There's a lot you can do with diaphragmatic breathing, but here are three easy exercises to get you started. Everything You Need To Know About Stress

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  1. Huh-huh-huh. Next time your mother asks you, "So, when am I going to get those grandkids?” go straight to the bathroom before you explode. Run cold water over your hands and breathe in deeply to the count of  five. Then, blow out the air in five or six quick huffs (huh-huh-huh-huh-huh) as you shake the water off your wet hands. Repeat until you feel better!
  2. Alternate Nostril Breathing. You can do this anywhere — in line at the cash register, in a traffic jam, on the phone! Push one nostril closed with your finger. Take one long breath in through the open nostril, for about five seconds, then pinch that one and let go of the other, breathing out slowly. Repeat alternately. Try to breathe out for as long as possible. Which nostril you pinch is less important than remembering to do it next time you feel anxious!
  3. Sing or Yawn. Worriers often have excess energy. Try to capitalize on that energy for breathing. Singing is an excellent way of breathing as well as effective for distracting yourself. Pick a song that is fun to sing and has an upbeat message. Too tired to sing? Make yourself yawn by opening your mouth as wide as you can. Do 10 yawns in a row. It's a great one-minute relaxer!

These simple exercises are only meant to give you a taste of the benefits of deep breathing. They are a step in the right direction of taking better care of yourself, but they cannot replace mental health treatment for a serious anxiety disorder. The more you practice them, the more natural these exercises will feel, and the more mindful you will become of your stress level.

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Julia Flood

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In my San Francisco practice I help couples in crisis break out of the vicious cycle of hurting and getting hurt. Call me at (415) 820-3210 or email me at julia@newstarttherapy.com. http://www.newstarttherapy.com

Location: San Francisco, CA
Credentials: LCSW
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues
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