If a girl has not been told she is beautiful and smart by a significant older male by the time she is 14 years old, she will never believe it from another man. Those dads, grandpas, uncles and other supportive and important males who show appropriate appreciation and respect for the young girls in their lives, can boost their confidence and self-esteem.
Responsible and respectful male role models help girls and females to stretch their ideas, expand their horizons and learn to communicate with the other sex. If the relationship is one of trust and love, girls will look for a mate and partner who exhibit similar traits.
They will also gain valuable experience in personal interactions both personally and professionally when they are free to express opinions and ideas to an older male.
Mentors Important for Young Men
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Children, both male and female thrive when caring adults nurture relationships with them. Young boys, especially need a variety of adults in their life to provide a diverse example of role models. A number of studies have shown that when boys become teens, they have a higher rate of confidence and courage if they have had strong male role models.
Dads, uncles, grandfather are all in unique positions of developing this special bond of respect and love with those children they nurture. They can share values, experiences and warm hugs when life gets rough.
1. If your relationship with your Dad was not good, did you find a “father-figure” to fill that role?
2. Were either your grandfathers or uncles available to guide, direct and encourage you?
3. Can you look back on your life and see something positive you gained from these relationships with Dad, Grandpas and Uncles, male role models in your life?
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