Friday as the boys are in the locker room preparing for soccer practice, Tom notices Craig is now alone. Without Craig's friends around Tom feel more powerful leading Tom to accidentally push Craig into a locker. Tom then takes Craig's soccer shorts and puts them in the toilet.
Tom adds some fuel to the fire by testing the other players on the team telling them Craig has wet his pants and requests they pass the message on to everyone they know. When Craig arrives for practise everyone is laughing at him, and making comments. Craig now feels more vulnerable because he is the smallest boy on the team. So, this teasing, taunting and belittling has a profound effect on him today.
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When Craig finally gets up enough courage to tell someone what is happening to him the coach he speaks to brushes off Craig's concerns with a comment about "boys being boys". Craig has been bullied twice in this scenario. Were these incidents all part of the jockeying for position in a social group?
Bullying is a catch-all phase which encompasses taunting, teasing, jeering, threatening, kicking, shoving, and physically assaulting others.
Indirect bullying, or more commonly "bystander bullying" is when one child or a group of children intentionally ignore a bullying incident, exclude, or shun another child or group of children without ever having a physical altercation.
This type of bullying often has the same devastating effect as a physical assault. As you can see, bullying is a problem affecting families and individuals all over the world. Thanks for joining our community of caring parents, family members,coaches, teachers and mentors who want to help raise a generation of responsible adults who respect others.
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