4. Start a bad workout regimen. You throw yourself into working out or you just don’t feel like you have the energy for it. Unless you’re in that very happy middle ground, you will be criticized. I’d suggest you make a plan for what you’d like to be doing and aim to reach that goal. Don’t worry about what other people think. Moderation is key here as well.
5. Eat wrong. Some of us eat when upset, some of us can’t. A little weight change isn’t going to kill you though your friends see it as revealing your inner crazy. Just be sensible and mindful about your eating. Think about how to cope with your feelings in ways that are more positive than eating or starving. Try to do those positive things.
6. Communicate inappropriately. You constantly talk about the divorce, analyzing it’s every nuance ad nauseum; not only are your friends convinced your obsession is unhealthy, you’re driving them crazy. Or, you’re not sharing enough; while relieved about not having to listen to yet another post-divorce raving lunatic, people are convinced it’s only a matter of time before you finally go off the deep end. Consider what’s really helpful to you and act accordingly.
No matter what you do, everyone’s an expert in whether it’s right for you. It’s just like the way we judge our TV women: they’re not doing the right things enough of the time, and they can’t seem to get it together and have it all. My alternative is to embrace your inner crazy and accept the insanity of post-divorce life. The real expert in what’s best for you, is you. You can tell whether you’re on the right track by looking at how you’re spending your time, coping with your emotions and taking care of your health. Make adjustments. You’re a work in progress. As for me, I’m happy to still be considered a crazy mama.