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Releasing Your Fears & Accessing Your Potential

Excerpts from Marianne Williamson's Our Greatest Fear eloquently creates the template for generating the life of your dreams!

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.

Your playing small does not serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others."

What's Stopping You?
Are you wondering what you are "supposed to" DO as your life purpose?  The words "supposed to", "have to", "should" and "ought to" begs the question "Who says?"  Enter parents, teachers, religious leaders, bosses and/or spouses who emphasize conforming to conventional wisdom, customs and/or beliefs to keep you in line, therefore stifling your potential.  People pleasing, losing all of you to ensure others' happiness, also robs you of living your phenomenal life.

We are called human beings, not human doings, because our purpose is to BE all of the unique beings we are.  Our "doing" addiction feeds the ego and keeps the boat from rocking while judgment and saying "I don't know" stops energy immediately. How often are you interspersing "I don't know" with judging yourself and others? Believing you don't know is a lie.  Your knowing is buried under your efforts to validate other's wishes/expectations of you. 

Judgment, also a lie, reinforces what others have told you about yourself, pressuring you to play small.  Choosing for you will deeply impact those you know who really want to take that leap but are fearful. Attempts to ease their discomfort by trying to bring you back into the fold will abound, possibly fueling your fears of inadequacy, others having already thought it/done it, what people will think, not having finances or backing, being too much work, failure and/or losing friends and family.  Do these excuses feel heavier or lighter?  If they feel heavier, they are your lies.  If they feel lighter, they are your truth.

Releasing Your Fears:

    1.    Fear, or False Evidence Appearing Real, is always future based and a lie.  Return to the present moment, which is really all you ever have, where things are always fine.
    2.    Lovingly embrace your feelings allowing them to surface and dissipate.
    3.    Create a Gratitude List, acknowledging the blessings you received from your leaps of faith, that will lift your spirits while supporting your next steps.
    4.    Nothing is forever and you always have a choice. Per Wayne Dyer's book, Your Erroneous Zones, there are no right/wrong decisions, only choices made with available information.  As your journey unfolds, more guidance arrives thus clarifying your next choices and course corrections.
    5.    Stop judging anything/anyone, including yourself, as right/wrong, success/failure, good/bad.
    6.    Deepen your connection with your truth, and/or God/Spirit/Universe, through journaling, time in nature, meditation, whatever brings you to stillness.
    7.    Embrace changes as invitations to living more fully from your authentic self.
    8.    Everything is possible when you have faith. The Universe/Spirit/God hasn't brought you this far to drop you now.
    9.    You cannot control what other people will think.  How YOU relate to what's happening is the only thing in life you can control.
    10.    People who leave your life create space for new people who resonate with your real self to arrive.
   
Accessing Your Potential:
Potential is "the inherent ability or capacity for growth, development or coming into being".  Your awareness of what brings you joy, hence your gifts, talents, abilities can be buried under the high value our culture puts on hard work, multi-tasking and long hours ensuring that nothing done easily and quickly is perceived as valuable.  My mother's favorite sayings, "Working my fingers to the bone" and "Working myself to death" supported my becoming a workaholic resulting in burnout and health issues. 

How can you discover your potential?  Ask yourself, and others, the following questions then spend time with the answers:

    1.    What do I love to do?
    2.    What comes easily and quickly that inspires people to frequently compliment me?
    3.    What am I doing when I stay focused and engaged, losing all track of time?
    4.    What energizes and excites me that's playful?
    5.    What dream(s) have I had for many years?
    6.    Who/what can support me in owning more of my potential?
    7.    How could accessing my potential contribute to my life and life on the planet?

Was it hard to receive the answers?  Did you immediately dismiss some or all of the compliments and responses?  Do you believe you deserve to have the life of your dreams?  If not, why?  What keeps you from trusting yourself and receiving compliments and support?  Write what immediately comes to mind.  Difficulties receiving and owning what you deserve block you from truly claiming the phenomenal being you are.  Does it feel lighter or heavier to continue holding onto those blocks?

Your illuminating answers light the path to greater clarity. If not now, when will you embrace your gorgeous, talented, brilliant and fabulous self?  Now is your time to shine your light so others can shine theirs! 

The world is waiting.......What else is possible?

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