Alone During the Holidays


Alone During the Holidays

Are you feeling lonely?

Is everyone around you a couple?

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It helps during times like this to realize that you are not alone. Over 50% of first marriages fail and the statistics for second marriages are even worse. If you are one of the statistics, then it may help you to know, there are times in our life when we are in Winter (so to speak). A time when things are slower and you feel emptiness inside.

If this is you, Rejoice…YES, I said Rejoice! Because you are embarking on a new journey of discovery. Anything is possible…Really! I remember saying to a friend of mine in a very sad voice after my divorce, “I have no idea where I am going or what I will be doing in the future.” She perked right up and said, “I know! Isn’t that WONDERFUL? You now get to create anything you desire.”

After I took in her words, I had to smile. Of course she was exactly right. I was feeling vulnerable and very sorry for myself, but with her reframe I was plucked out of the darkness and set down in my new life of adventure. I realized it was time to be okay that I was in winter because this was the place I could learn how to care for myself. I could hibernate for a time while I charted my course for my new destination.

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Sometimes slowing down and going inside is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. Give yourself permission to just be in the moment and find pleasure in the simple things. If you do this, the lights on the tree will seem brighter. Having time to write a long note to an old friend in a Christmas card delights you. Even taking a stroll in the evening alone, while enjoying the Christmas lights, can feel joyful. This will begin to happen more and more as you let go of loneliness and replace it with a knowing that this is your time to be still…Winter always turns into Spring when the time is right!

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