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3 Reasons You're Not Receiving Second Dates With Women


3 Reasons You're Not Receiving Second Dates With Women
Are you having trouble landing second dates with women? These three issues may just be the problem.


Another first date.  Another voicemail.  Another unreturned phone call.

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Does this crushing disappointment sound familiar to you?  If it does, not too worry.  You are far from alone.  With women having more options than ever these days due to the emergence of online dating, second dates aren’t exactly easy to reach.

The good new is, most of these first date mistakes are easily fixable.  It’s just a matter of making the adjustments.   Let’s take a look at a few qualities that just may be hindering your dating life.

1.  Going overboard with kindness.

There’s nothing wrong with being a nice guy.  But there is something wrong with bowing to a woman’s every whim.  Many men mistakenly act extra nice, in the hopes that this will create attraction.  They let women make every little decision in regards to how the date unfolds.

Unfortunately, this is not how attraction works.  Women cannot be convinced to feel attracted, and acting overly nice will not cause them to feel this way.  It will do the exact opposite.

Women naturally feel attracted to men who show they have a backbone, can make decisions, and have enough confidence to stand on their own two feet.  Show some alpha male qualities, and let women know that you are not a pushover, but a strong confident man.

2.  Placing too much pressure on women.

It’s natural to meet an amazing woman and immediately feel as if you want to lock her down.  Great catches are hard to find.

But sometimes we become a little too excited, and unintentionally put a lot of pressure on the women we are dating.  Whether verbally, or through our actions, we make it way too clear on a first date that we are dying to date these women long term.

This is a mistake.  In the early stages, women just want to get to know guys without feeling any pressure. The second they feel as if they have to make a big decision, they will back off and run.

3.  Staying in the friend zone.

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It’s not enough to just be polite and ask questions on a first date.  This is what friends do, not potential romantic partners.  We need to make it clear that we are more than just the friend type.

Touch your date in small ways throughout the night, flirt a lot, and show some edge.
At the end of the day, it must be made clear that you are a man and confidant enough to show it.

Joshua Pompey provides online dating advice to men all around the world.  For more information on his online dating guide, The REAL Online Game, as well as plenty of free life-changing information, click GetREALDates online dating tips now.

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