Online Dating: Best or Bust?


Online Dating: Best or Bust?
Is Charles Orlando right? About online dating- I don't think so!

Actually, I'm surprised he didn't bring up using dating coaches to help write an online essay as a deception of your true self to a prospective date. That would be like saying Tiger Woods is cheating because he hires a swing coach to improve his game and his chances of winning a tournament, or job seekers cheat by hiring a resume writer to help land a job.

You're just trying to get that first date, so you're putting the best you forward. It's marketing, just like anything else. Do I advocate pretending you're 6 inches taller or 35 pounds lighter than you are? No. If you do exaggerate too much, the truth is going to come out anyway, and then you can decide what to do about it. We're all adults here.


He doesn't seem to understand the tremendous advantage of online dating—you can meet multitudes more people than you can in your own area. Think about a recently divorced woman in a small town in a rural state. How on earth is she going to meet men without incurring a huge travel expense? With online dating.

How about women in cities? How many men can they possibly meet during their normal routine compared to the number of men they can screen on a dating site or two? If a woman wanted to spend every non-working moment looking for men, she could meet three or four potential men on a good day. Online, she can make contact with three to five times that many on any given day.

Dating has changed forever due to technology. You can become acquainted with people you never would have met in real life, which is a great thing—you have access to many more people than you would otherwise. But the downside to that is that we're too dismissive of them. We can press a key and delete them, which means we are basically throwing them away, often based on superficial things like a bad picture or a clumsily-written profile. I don't think that's a good thing. 

Dating online has it's flaws, and most of them have to do with the people involved. Many don't effectively use the sites to their highest potential—just as they didn't utilize newspaper personal ads to their fullest 30 or 40 years ago. It appears that this author just wants to gripe about a way to date, and my guess is that in his research he didn't speak to those that sing it's praises. As I always say, online dating—it's just one spoke in the wheel of meeting new people, making new friends and yes, falling in love.

For More Online Dating Advice from YourTango:

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Jonathon Aslay

Dating Coach

Jonathon Aslay

Join my email community & receive a special report "Where To Meet Great Guys" plus a weekly tip to Understand Men Better


My New Book

"The Relationships Men Commit to and Why"  HOW MEN COMMIT

Location: Redondo Beach, CA
Credentials: Other
Other Articles/News by Jonathon Aslay:

How To Avoid 'Suffocating' Him At The Start Of A New Relationship


I want you to do something for me. I want you to imagine yourself in a couple of dating scenarios that I'm going to paint for you. Ready? Ok, here we go. Dating Scenario #1 You just went on a coffee date with a man you met online recently named Bob. He seemed nice. He was dressed well, he was a gentleman and pleasant to talk to. You weren’t ... Read more

Why This Guy Thinks You Should Say 'No' To Sex On The First Date


When it comes to sex and dating, my belief is that you are a grownup and can make grown-up choices. That includes when to start having sex with someone you're seeing. Deciding when to have sex is a source of anxiety and confusion for many women for several reasons. The beliefs they were raised with, past experiences, their own expectations for sex and ... Read more

What Your Dating Dealbeakers Say About You


One of my clients, Leslie, has been divorced for five years and dating for two. She hasn't been very successful with men so far, so she came to me. She's a beautiful redhead with blue eyes that twinkle and a killer sense of humor. She's smart, together, and a great conversationalist. But she rarely dates a man more than once. Why, you may ... Read more

See More

Latest Expert Videos
Must-see Videos
Most Popular