Women often get to the destination of a relationship faster then their boyfriends. Now I’m sure this goes back to the days of being little girls and hearing Prince Charming stories. Or planning your wedding with your girlfriends at age 13. Whether it’s in your nature or all that playing as a child, where is it going is just part of who you are. You have a need for security.
Men don’t operate that way.
Growing up, the last thing we talked about was marriage. We talked about girls, but mostly how to meet and approach women. In our teens and twenties, we were learning how to meet and have confidence with women. Mostly we learned by trial and error. I’m sure you have even met a few guys who didn’t have game, who didn’t have edge. Some men are STILL learning how to have confidence with women and how to be in relationship. But you are in relationship and you are frustrated with his pace. All your doubts about men and commitment rise to the surface. You are remembering many of your failed relationships and fear rears it’s ugly head.
Guess what? We pick up on those fears. So you have a double whammy going. Your fears are pushing for an agenda and this expectation is scaring him away.
This is the #1 mistake you’re probably making with men. And guess what? It’s completely reversible and preventable.
To create a strong connection and be successful in a relationship with a guy, you must understand where he’s coming from. You have to understand how he thinks, what he’s feeling and what he wants from a relationship with you. The better you understand your guy, the easier your relationship will be. For many women, starting the conversation of “where is it going” is the hardest part of a new relationship. You want to know where you stand, and you want to get your guy to open up and talk to you.
The Relationships Men Commit To and Why is here to help on how to get your guy to open up and talk to you, and tell you how he feels about your relationship. He may not like thinking you have an agenda, but there is a way to inspire a man to want to share his thoughts and feelings in a way that doesn’t freak him out.
Take a lesson from the locker room.