From the Guys Perspective, The #1 Mistake Women Make When Dating

By

From the Guys Perspective, The #1 Mistake Women Make When Dating
Get inside the mind of men and hear the one mistake women make that turns men off when dating.

Women often get to the destination of a relationship faster then their boyfriends.  Now I’m sure this goes back to the days of being little girls and hearing Prince Charming stories. Or planning your wedding with your girlfriends at age 13.  Whether it’s in your nature or all that playing as a child, where is it going is just part of who you are. You have a need for security.

Men don’t operate that way.

Growing up, the last thing we talked about was marriage. We talked about girls, but mostly how to meet and approach women.  In our teens and twenties, we were learning how to meet and have confidence with women. Mostly we learned by trial and error. I’m sure you have even met a few guys who didn’t have game, who didn’t have edge.  Some men are STILL learning how to have confidence with women and how to be in relationship.  But you are in relationship and you are frustrated with his pace. All your doubts about men and commitment rise to the surface. You are remembering many of your failed relationships and fear rears it’s ugly head.

Guess what? We pick up on those fears. So you have a double whammy going.  Your fears are pushing for an agenda and this expectation is scaring him away.

This is the #1 mistake you’re probably making with men. And guess what? It’s completely reversible and preventable.

To create a strong connection and be successful in a relationship with a guy, you must understand where he’s coming from. You have to understand how he thinks, what he’s feeling and what he wants from a relationship with you.  The better you understand your guy, the easier your relationship will be. For many women, starting the conversation of “where is it going” is the hardest part of a new relationship.  You want to know where you stand, and you want to get your guy to open up and talk to you.

The Relationships Men Commit To and Why is here to help on how to get your guy to open up and talk to you, and tell you how he feels about your relationship. He may not like thinking you have an agenda, but there is a way to inspire a man to want to share his thoughts and feelings in a way that doesn’t freak him out.

Take a lesson from the locker room.

This article was originally published at Understand Men Now with Jonathon Aslay. Reprinted with permission.
Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Jonathon Aslay

Dating Coach

Jonathon Aslay

Join my email community & receive a special report "Where To Meet Great Guys" plus a weekly tip to Understand Men Better

UnderstandMenNow

My New Book

"The Relationships Men Commit to and Why"  HOW MEN COMMIT

Location: Redondo Beach, CA
Credentials: Other
Other Articles/News by Jonathon Aslay:

Why The '10 Date Rule' Actually Works

By

We've all heard stories of people who slept together on the first date and it turned into a happily ever after. How often do you think that happens? Honestly? Not nearly as often as you might think — about one in every million one-night stands. Those odds aren't great, so how can you improve the chances of your forever after? Take your time, and ... Read more

7 Mind Games That Are Keeping You Single

By

You say you want a relationship. You say it's a priority in your life, and you even hire coaches to guide you. But you're still single, scratching your head, and saying, "Why am I alone again on a Saturday night?" All your friends say you're gorgeous and have it all. You know you want a relationship, but you also tell yourself that ... Read more

Failing At Love? 4 Reasons You're Still Single

By

I wrote the following post on my Spotlight Coaching forum, and boy, were the comments flying: "From my experience, one of the greatest challenges for those seeking to attract a mate stems from having conflicting rules. Part of them wants love, but the other part doesn't want to get hurt. Part of them wants to be accepted, but the other part wants ... Read more

See More

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

FROM AROUND THE WEB