From the Guys Perspective, The #1 Mistake Women Make When Dating

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From the Guys Perspective, The #1 Mistake Women Make When Dating
Get inside the mind of men and hear the one mistake women make that turns men off when dating.

As a single woman wanting to know how guys think, don’t you wish you could be the fly on the wall in a man’s locker room?

When it comes to understanding men and hearing what we say about women, the locker room is the place. They know they can speak freely because in guy code, what’s said in the locker room stays in the locker room.  The locker room is a sacred place where men can say anything. And they usually do!

Allow me to be your fly on the wall for a minute. Guys In Locker Room

Imagine this, a couple of guys just finished a workout. They are a bit exhausted and ready for the steam room or sauna. They are kinda out of their “heads” and into their “bodies.”

They are connected to their emotional side, not their logical side.  Wanna know what guys mostly talk about? If you said sports, cars and work, you’d only be be half right.

The truth is, the minute one guy talks about women… the place goes silent.

Now you might be thinking, why does it go silent Jonathon? Good question.

Well, for some men they live vicariously through the stories of others. And for others, they want to hear a good story and share their two cents. Men are competitive and they like to one up their friends when it comes to conquests.

Now this is all fine and good for those guys just dating (in the getting laid mode). You know, the 20 something crowd or the newly divorced guys over 40. What about the guys in relationship? Guess what most of them do? Rarely do you hear men speak of how “in love” they are. Why? It’s not in our nature to talk about lovely dovey stuff. Guys who are in happy relationships keep it to themselves.

What about the other guys, what do they talk about?  They complain. About what, you wonder?

Come closer to the screen.  You don’t want to miss this.  Take a deep breath.

They’re sharing their frustrations about women. And the #1 mistake women make in relationship, which is…

Aaaarg!

Agenda.

Yes, agenda!

The #1 frustration men have with women is when women have an agenda on where the relationship is going.

 

If you are single & looking, or in a relationship now, I’m sure you have done this.  Women often think in the future.  By contrast, men think in the NOW. Men tend to think in present terms not the future when it comes to relationships.  So the minute a woman has an agenda, this freaks guys out.

When it comes to where a relationship is going, men want it on their terms.  They want to set the course.  They often set the pace.  If you were attracted to this man in the early stages of relationship.  He picked the restaurant for the first date.  He planned the first trip.  He even decided when to call you his girlfriend. He hopefully said “I love you” first.  (I know, you were biting your tongue on that one).

Men prefer to set the pace at every stage of the relationship. And you are attracted to men who take charge, who are leaders. So when it comes to where it’s going, why would you expect anything less?

 

Here is why.

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