Why Body Image Matters In Online Dating

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If you're overweight and online dating, you have two options.

Would you love to find the love of your life online? Are you uncomfortable in your own skin? Do you tell yourself that body type doesn't matter because you'll make a man fall in love with your personality online, and by the time you meet in person, the fact that you're overweight won't matter to him? If so, here's the straight truth: If you are overweight and online dating, then you have two options:

1. You can post current, honest photos of yourself online. That means full-length, undistorted pictures of yourself. This way, everyone looking can see how you really look, just the way you are. No holding the camera above your head to make it look like you're thinner than you are.

 

Choosing this option gives the viewer the ability to decide for himself whether he likes what he sees.

2. You can wait to use online dating sites until you lose weight and become happy with how you look. Yes, that's it. Simple! When you feel good in your own skin, you'll have no problem posting full-length photos of your fit, happy self rather than headshots only or carefully crafted images designed to make you look thinner than you really are.

Now, I'm not trying to be harsh. It simply comes down to this:

If you are happy with your body, with being overweight, then great! If this is your truth, then you should have zero challenge posting current, full length photos of yourself. However, if you are not happy with how you look, then why not do something about it right now! Keep reading ...

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Chances are, the only reason you aren't already doing something about your weight is because it's too hard for you to take consistent action, even though you know how to eat healthy and exercise. This means you have a mindset issue, and it's 90 percent of your challenge. If you already had a weight loss mindset, you'd already be living healthy and fit since diet and exercise is only 10 percent of the solution. Grab my free, 5-day e-course to take a step in the direction of the easiest weight loss there is, with a weight loss mindset today!

Why is this important? Because no matter how many times your friends console you saying "men are shallow," and "they should see your inner beauty and just accept you!" you will never (ever) change this fact: Men are visual. Now, this does not mean that there are not men out there who will be attracted to you the way you are, right now. The problem is if you don't find yourself attractive. 

If you were 100 percent good with being overweight, then you would not have any problem posting current, head-to-toe photos of yourself on your profile, and you would not be having conversations with your friends about how shallow men are. In fact, you would not even be reading this article because it would not resonate with you! 

The bottom-line is this: It's not your job to make any man "see your inner beauty" or fall in love with you as you are now in your overweight body. It's your job to fall in love with you and create the body that you want to live in. Once you do that, then you'll find that you'll have no problem attracting the man of your dreams because you will already love you. Then it will be easy for him to love you, in the body you love (whatever weight you choose for you). When you feel that good about yourself, then there will be no hiding behind headshots in your online dating profile.

The love of your life is waiting for you right now, but first you must feel good about yourself. So, if you don't like your body and you've been posting only headshots online, then it's time for you to take action today to become the you you've always wanted to be. And that's an inner self job. What makes weight loss super easy is a weight loss mindset. Mindset is 90 percent of your current challenge if you would dearly love to lose weight (and keep it off!), but you aren't doing it. Be sure and grab my free, 5-day e-course to learn more! 

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JoLynn Braley

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JoLynn Braley
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Specialties: Body Image, Eating & Food Issues, Empowering Women, Health/Wellness, Holistic Coach, NLP, Spiritual, Weightloss/ Management
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