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Slutbashing & Other Things To Know About Men & Sex

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Is it true that men prefer one night stands? Find out here.

This guest article from Psych Central was written by Sophia Dembling

Why is it harder for women to orgasm than men? The punchline is, who cares? And yes, it's a joke, a guy joke that actually makes me laugh because it's really about how loutish some men are. Also, it's funny because it's true. The New Rules For Dating In A Digital World

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The Psych Central news pointed me towards an article entitled Women, Men, and the Bedroom: Methodological and Conceptual Insights That Narrow, Reframe, and Eliminate Gender Differences in Sexuality. I wanted to learn more, I dug up the original paper which pulled together a number of studies. It reframed some of the things we know to be true about men, women, and sex.

Two in particular amused me. One myth, is that women orgasm less frequently than men, this is actually true. In a 2009 study involving nearly 13,000 undergraduates, researchers found that women had orgasms only 32% as often as men in first-time hookups, 49% in repeated hookups, and a respectable 79% in romantic relationships.

Are women more likely to orgasm when they know a guy? Is it because they must remain cautious and vigilant outside of romantic relationships? As a result, they can't relax enough to experience the le petit morte of orgasm in hookups. Not necessarily, this research suggests that in hookups, men really don't care, and they don't try. An interesting blog post on the research points out:

"Interviews with male and female students revealed that while men feel entitled to receive oral sex, and females feel obligated to give it, the reverse is not true. As a result, while men receive fellatio more or less equally across all relationship contexts, cunnilingus increases dramatically as the relationship becomes more committed. Thus, it seems that men feel that it is important to please their girlfriends, but are not as interested in the pleasure of a casual hook up."

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Another myth, in the article is the notion that men enjoy casual sex more than women. One 2010 study found that women were in fact, less likely than men to accept hypothetical offers of casual opposite sex with strangers. More recent research found that stigma plays a part in this reluctance — what participants in the research called slutbashing.

The same research also found, that when women were presented with the possibility of casual sex with famous people or close friends, the gap narrowed. Attractiveness of the hypothetical partner played into the decision, so did women's perception of the skill a guy might display in the sack. Demystifying The Female Libido

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Dr. John Grohol is a mental health expert and founder of Psych Central. He has been writing about online behavior, mental health and psychology issues, and the intersection of technology and psychology since 1992.

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