How To Deal With An Angry Spouse

By Psychologi John Gerson. Posted on Mar 6th 2012.

This article differentiates anger as a protest against loss of love from charaterological issues.

For those who are always dealing with an angry spouse, and the steps I’ve outlined for the most part locate the anger as over-reactions to or even independent of what’s going on in the relationship, it’s important to discover the elements in one’s family of origin history that make living with an angry person somehow familiar, and what the underlying agenda might be for engaging in the ever present struggle for peace and understanding that such a relationship requires. Beware of notions that you have the power to change another person….

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