The Three C's of Relationships

By

Commitment. 
The third C is what keeps us together in a long term relationship, when
the going gets tough and the first two C’s feel like a distant memory.  Couples can decide, from the desire of their
minds, to maintain a commitment (usually either for the sake of children or
because moving on seems too difficult) to stay with each other even when
chemistry has faded and/or they realize they’re not very compatible.  Of the two, chemistry is the easiest to
rekindle.  Compatibility can’t be faked,
but chemistry can be sparked just by adding the element of surprise into the
relationship.  From role-playing to
polyamory, there is a wide spectrum of choices for couples who wish to rekindle
the sexual component of their relationship. 

I’m reminded of a mnemonic phrase from
grammar school:  I before E, except after
C.  That could translate as:  Intimacy before Eroticism, except after
Commitment.  Once you commit to sticking
it out, you have to put eroticism before intimacy or you’ll be in for a long,
slow haul.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.