Maybe we’re afraid to allow ourselves these “moments of idealization and
yearning” because we’re afraid our partner won’t live up to our yearning. We expect him to be predictable, and we’re
afraid that if he’s not, we’ll be disappointed.
We are afraid that if he steps away and claims his sovereignty, that who
he becomes in that space will not please us.
What if the opposite were true? What if, in stepping into that space, he
creates an updraft that reignites the flames of passion again?
Fear and exhilaration are two sides to the same coin. The physical symptoms are virtually
identical; the only difference lies in the stories our minds create about those
symptoms. Make up a new story and see