Who says that being an exotic dancer is wrong? Who says that being paid to have sex is bad? Who decided your morality? Have you ever really explored what you think about strippers and prostitutes, or did you just accept the morality of your parents and teachers? Is it possible that strippers and prostitutes serve a positive purpose in our society? Even if you genuinely and thoughtfully believe that the answer is no, and that strippers and prostitutes are plagues of the earth, they exist. And because they exist, they do have some kind of value. Even if they exist to show you how you definitely do not want to act, they have value.
The subconscious mind doesn’t deal in shades of grey. It deals in black and white. You’re good or you’re bad, period. If there’s any part of you that your subconscious mind judges as bad, you’re bad to the bone. Unredeemable, in fact. Surely, you don’t want to feel that way about yourself. It will impact your love relationships, your friendships, and your ability to be successful in your work. It is the root of all of your excuses for why you’re not completely happy and fulfilled in your life.
I offer you this exercise to own your inner stripper. (You can insert something else you judge to be bad if you don’t have a charge about strippers.) Write down all the things you believe about strippers. Circle the one that gives you the strongest emotional charge. Then ask yourself these questions.
- When have I ever acted like that?
- What would be the benefit of behaving in that way?
- Can I conceive of any possible scenario where I might be willing to act like that?
- What are the benefits of choosing not to be like that?
Spend a few minutes focusing on your breath. Inhale acceptance, exhale judgment. And remember, there is a stripper and a whore inside every one of us, and she deserves to be loved.