I’ve been experiencing a lot of resistance lately, and have come up with a couple of solutions with a little help from my guides. One of the things they said was reassuring in a strange sort of way. They explained to one of my clients, and I knew the message was not just for her, that fear and resistance will never fully disappear. They get smaller, less frequent and easier to dispel the more we connect with our true essence, but they are an integral part of the human experience.
We think that if we’re experiencing resistance and fear that we must be on the wrong path. Not so, they said. Resistance and fear are part of the human experience of forgetting that we are divine. Every one of us suffers under a veil of forgetfulness, suffering under the illusion that we are only human. We are not only human; we are spiritual beings having a human experience. When we forget that, we experience resistance and fear. When we remember, the resistance and fear go away and we are once more in the flow, able to be productive and do our work in the world.
When noticing resistance, they suggested that we ask “What am I afraid of?” Resistance is a sign of fear, and the fear may be real or imagined. Sometimes the resistance is legitimate; it keeps us from doing something that isn’t aligned with our best and highest good. But more often, it’s because we’re afraid of our own magnificence. We have this mistaken idea that we’re not good enough, and if we did the thing we’re resisting, we’d have more proof of our magnificence. It’s hard to keep up the illusion of unworthiness when what you do is helping other people, or even just yourself, live better lives.
If the resistance is a sign of imagined fear, which is usually the case, it’s time to live the Nike mantra and “Just Do It.” This advice is good whether it’s in your work or personal life. Once you figure out what you’re afraid of, you can ask whether it’s really likely to happen. You can come up with alternative scenarios that are more positive, and you can strategize for the worst case scenario.
For example, perhaps your partner has become distant. You want to talk about it, but you’re afraid. When you ask yourself what you’re afraid of, the answer may be that you’re afraid your partner is having an affair. What if it’s not true? What if they’re overwhelmed at work, or worried about their job security? What if talking about it helped them work through their worries and brought the two of you closer?
Conversely, if they are having an affair, wouldn’t you rather know about it? It could be the kick in the pants you need to finally leave, or it could be the impetus to enter couples counseling. Either way, you’ll be better off having done something about it. Take my advice and Just Do It.
P.S. I took my own advice today after writing this blog and finally created a video series that I’ve been procrastinating about for nearly two months. I feel so much better! I’m relieved that it’s finished and excited to launch it. I just have a little editing to do, but stay tuned to see it in the next week! You can find it at www.romancerecovery.com