How to Have GREAT Sex

5.      Interpersonal Risk Taking and
Exploration. This means that someone who’s willing to take risks and explore
the outer edges of their comfort zone is someone who’s capable of having
extraordinary sex.  Extraordinary sex
shakes us out of the mundane; you have to be comfortable with being a little
uncomfortable.

6.      Authenticity.  Who are you, really?  If you’re not willing to show your partner
who you really are, he will know instinctively that you’re holding something
back.  He may not know what it is, but he
will be unwilling to trust you as a result. 
And if he doesn’t trust you, he won’t let go with the wild abandon
necessary for truly extraordinary sex.

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7.      Vulnerability. This is a tough one,
because our society doesn’t value vulnerability.  We consider it a weakness.  But trust me; it’s not a weakness when it comes
to having extraordinary sex.  Allowing
yourself to be vulnerable with your man creates a deep sense of trust.  It’s a prerequisite for extraordinary
communication (#4) and authenticity (#6), and it’s an important component of
all the six previous components

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8.      Transcendence.  This means that great sex surpasses all
expectations and goes beyond the limits of ordinary experience; it can even be
beyond the limits of the universe and beyond all comprehension.  This is what people who practice Tantra are
looking for in their sex.  Essentially,
if you practice the first seven components, they will lead you here.