I’ve been thinking about the process of manifesting what you want for the past few days. Specifically I’ve been thinking about how, for me, sometimes it seems to work and sometimes it doesn’t. And I’ve noticed that a key component to successful manifestation is becoming detached from how it will manifest.
This seems counter-intuitive. After all, if you want something to happen, don’t you have to figure out how to make it happen?
It turns out that you don’t have to figure out how to make it happen. In fact, if you spend time worrying about the “how,” the “what” might pass you bye. Worrying about how something is going to happen makes your attention focus on worry, rather than where it should be, which is having the thing you want. When you focus on worry, you manifest more to worry about.
Even if you're not worried, when you focus on something as if you don't yet have it, it will always be just out of your reach.
The tricky part is letting go of your attachment to the outcome. Let's say you want to manifest the perfect partner. You have preferences for dark hair and blue eyes, a certain height and body type. What if the perfect partner didn't look like you imagined him or her to look? As my first life coach used to say, "Don't get so hung up on the blue Jaguar that if someone offers you a red Ferrari, you say no." In other words, focus on the big picture (the perfect partner or a snazzy sports car) and not the details.
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The devil's in the details, as they say, and hell is in the how.
To focus on the big picture, spend a little time every day visualizing how happy you are with your partner, how much you love each other and how great the sex is. Act as if you are already with him or her and focus on the emotions until you can really feel them. You can change up their physical appearance so the Universe knows you're flexible. Once you've really got the good feelings in your body, stay there for several seconds-- a minimum of 17 seconds and no longer than a minute.
Don't get specific about how you'll meet, either. Let the universe deal with that how. Your job is to put yourself out there in a variety of ways so you have plenty of chances to meet your love. Oh, and one last thing. Have fun along the way!