Finding God in Sex


As a Tantrika, I see God everywhere… but not like that kid in the Sixth Sense saw dead people. Instead, I see everyone and everything as particles of divine consciousness.
A therapist friend knows this about me and lent me a book called Fingerprints of God: The Search for the Science of Spirituality. In one chapter, the author talks about psychedelic drugs and the “god experience.” One scientist described an LSD trip as having “this sense of being at one with the universe, which involves a loss of ego boundaries, such that you can’t tell the difference between yourself and the rest of the universe.”
This sounds a lot like what happens when someone is newly in love; the loss of ego boundaries, when you can’t tell the difference between yourself and your lover. You cease thinking about “me” and instead think in terms of “we.” It happens first in the stage of early romantic love, and then happens at a deeper level in long term relationships.
What’s interesting (to me at least) is that the two brain chemicals the scientists focused on in their search for some kind of “god gene” or “god drug” are two chemicals that are critically important to sexuality and romantic relationships: dopamine and serotonin.
Dopamine is a “feel good” chemical. It’s related to the reward center in our brains and it’s activated during sex and other vigorous activity. Dopamine levels become elevated in the attraction phase of a relationship, or what I usually refer to as the honeymoon stage. When being with your partner feels like a drug—the more you get the more you want—that’s dopamine at work. It’s the main chemical that creates a close bond early in a relationship.
Serotonin works in a different way. Among other things, it elevates moods and helps men to last longer before ejaculation. It also seems to be, along with dopamine, the main triggers of transcendent experiences. Most of those psychedelic drugs act like serotonin in the brain. Serotonin is also partially responsible for keeping people together in long term relationships, some studies show.
What does all this mean, you ask? It means that with enough attention focused on the task at hand, you and your partner can find god through sex. You can have one of those transcendent experiences, where you lose the difference between your own small self, your partner, and the rest of the universe. With a little help from your chemical friends, dopamine and serotonin, you can have what I like to call a “cosmic orgasm.” I highly recommend it.

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