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The Essence of Connection


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I finally saw the movie Avatar this week.  I don’t usually watch movies with epic battle scenes and aliens, but when my yoga teacher highly recommended it, it piqued my curiosity.

Briefly, the movie centers around a humanoid culture called the Na’vi, and it’s set in 2154.  The Na’vi are a close knit community who live deeply in tune with all of nature’s creations.  Their way of life is being threatened by the money hungry humans who have found a deposit of some very rare, very expensive rock underneath the enormous tree the Na’vi call home. 

The standard greeting for the Na’vi is “Oel ngati kameie.”  It means “I see you.”  But it means much more than “I see you with my eyes.”  It means something deeper:  I understand your soul.  Or, as Neal Donald Walsch said in his book Tomorrow’s God, “I see who you Really are.” It reminds me of the Sanskrit greeting “namaste,” which means “the Divine light within me honors and acknowledges the Divine light I see in you.”`

Last week someone suggested I write about the essence of connection.  To me, this Na’vi greeting is the essence of connection.  We all want to be seen for who we really are.  Not who we’re pretending to be, or who we think we should be.  We want to be seen not only for our minds or our bodies, but for our hearts.  And yet, we are afraid.  When someone looks deeply inside our souls, we get a little squirmy.  We’re afraid that they’ll be disappointed by what they find.  So we put up barriers; in fact, we’ve been erecting barriers since we were small children.  We have so many barriers that sometimes we can’t even find our way into the heart of our own souls.

All of us want to experience a sense of connection. Yet there is a core fear we all share.  It is the fear that when someone looks deeply into my soul, they will find that nobody’s home.  They will find that the spark of Divine light that exists in everyone is not present in my heart.  We have become so disconnected from our hearts that we actually believe this might be true.  It’s kind of egotistical if you think about it, but there it is.

In our search for connection, we attract someone who already sees our light.  In our search for connection, we attract a romantic partner who can help us deconstruct the barriers we’ve built around our hearts.  This partner will pit our deepest fear (there’s nobody home, aka I’m not lovable) against our deepest desire (for connection, aka someone to love me).  So begins the dance of romance.  And we think it’s about sexual chemistry and romantic love.  It’s no wonder so many people end up hurt and confused!  If only they understood that it’s really about regaining connection:  first to our own hearts and then to each other.

Oel ngati kameie.  I see you.

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