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5 Ways Abandonment Issues Can Ruin Your Relationships

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5 Ways Abandonment Issues Can Ruin Your Relationships
You may not even realize you have abandoment issues.

4. You love the chase. You're really attracted to someone when you're trying to catch them, but once you're in the relationship you get bored. You withdraw emotionally, and your partner starts to think they've done something wrong. This is a common expression of abandonment issues in men.

5. You are a perfectionist. If only you get it right, you won't be rejected. Whether "it" is a work project, the way your home looks, how you dress or what your body looks like, perfectionism is a thief. It steals your happiness under the guise of preventing rejection.

If you resonate with any of these, the first step is to be gentle with yourself. Abandonment will start whispering in your ear that you don't deserve anything better and that you don't deserve to be loved. That is a lie, intended to keep you small.

All of us have at least one or two of these dynamics running in our lives. The most universal is the perfectionism one. Even if you don't think of yourself as a perfectionist, try to notice where perfectionist tendencies show up in your life. Maybe you're driven at work, and maybe you're obsessive about your body. Both are perfectionist tendencies.

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