EPs, on the other hand, become frustrated by the silence of IPs, and we’ll come to our own conclusions about what’s really going on inside their maddeningly silent IP heads. By the time the IP finishes the internal dialogue and comes out with their opinion, the EP usually feels so emotionally disconnected because of the silence she can’t even hear what the IP has to say.
How can you overcome these style differences? Figure out what type you are, and know that your partner is the opposite type. Trust me, it’s one of the little cosmic jokes the Universe likes to play. Then explain this to your partner, so that you each have an understanding of how your thought processes work. That way, he’ll be less likely to latch onto the First Word, and you’ll be less likely to sulk because he’s thinking.
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