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The feminist movement has dramatically
changed the lives of women in America. Without
getting into the history of it, I wanted to explore where it’s led us, and
where we can go from here.
Relationships between men and women have
changed dramatically. In striving for
equality between the sexes, men were ousted from the positions they held for so
long. They are no longer the sole
provider of the family, and they are expected to help around the house and be
more nurturing with the children. This
only seems fair when women work outside the home as well, right? And yet, how are these new duties negotiated?
I often see a type of barter system in
effect. Tit for tat, you take out the
trash and I’ll load the dishwasher. The
problem is that this barter system moves beyond basic household chores and
moves into the realm of emotional and sexual needs. It creates a transaction oriented
relationship between two people. It’s
what David Deida, a well known expert in the field of sexual essence, calls a
Stage Two relationship. The vast
majority of couples in relationship are in this stage.