The Answer is LOVE


3.      Create a Compliment List.  Email your friends and family and tell them you’re doing a self-improvement project.  Ask them to send you one thing they love about you and one thing they’d like to see you work on.  When you get their responses, take all the positive comments and turn them into a list.  If you’re the creative type, you can make a collage.  For now, ignore the non-positive comments.  Keep the list somewhere you will see it every day.  Mine’s laminated in my handbag.

4.      Ask for help.  Pick one thing you’d like to improve about yourself and get help with improving it.  Having someone to hold you accountable will ensure your success… even if they’re holding you accountable for being more compassionate with yourself.  You can choose a friend, family member, clergy member, coach or therapist.

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