5. For romantic relationships, resolve to hug your partner every day for at least 20 seconds. That’s about how long it takes for oxytocin to start flowing through your system, making you feel closer to your partner. Oxytocin, also known as the "cuddle hormone", works to make you feel better about people you...yup... cuddle with. Especially when you’ve been with someone for a long time, cuddling can fall to the bottom of the priority list. This year, resolve to let the oxytocin flow.
6. Romantic relationships need more than just cuddle time. One of the pitfalls of long term relationships is that the sizzle starts to fizzle. While oxytocin will help you feel more loving toward your partner, it won’t keep eroticism alive. For that, you need to resolve to get your sexy on. I’ve written volumes on different ways to bring the sexy back into your long term relationship, and you can find them on my blog here. If you’re short for time or can't tear yourself away from this page, my first tip is to initiate sex every single day for seven days. Yes, that's right. I said have sex for seven days in a row with your partner. You'll be amazed what happens when you do. Hugs Not Sex Will Save Your Relationship
7. Lastly, resolve to be kind to strangers. Technically, according to most common understandings of relationships, you’re not in a relationship with a stranger. Yet, this resolution will create a more powerful impact than you might imagine because the truth is that we are all in relationships with ourselves, our loved ones, those we consider enemies and with people we don’t know. Kindness toward strangers (and animals) is considered to be one of the measures of a great soul. If you want a truly amazing 2012, resolve to be kind to strangers.