Over one million divorces will take place in the USA this year and the majority of those involve families with children. Many look for excuses to make them feel okay about not working out the marriage for the sake of the children. This approach helps them deal with the emotions, but it doesn’t help the children. It doesn’t help their faith. It doesn’t keep them from worrying that somehow they are being abandoned by a parent that they thought would live in the same house with them and love them forever.
It is worth saving a marriage for the children.
No child has asked to be born. We bring them into existence. They don’t owe us. We owe them. If we have the capability of reproducing, shouldn’t we have the capability of responsibility? Parents need to work hard to not only save their marriages, but make their marriage good.
Absolutely not. Since 1999 I’ve personally witnessed “impossible” marriages saved. Not only saved, but husband and wife learning to be in love with each other again.
The only problems I believe are not solvable are those that involve continuing violence or abuse. No one should stay in a violent situation. As Kelley was quoted above, children in those environments actually feel relief when divorce comes. Nearly everything else is fixable. It takes two elements:
1. Each spouse has to stop doing the things destroying the marriage.
2. Each spouse has to start doing the things to make love grow.
This process will look different for each couple, but if both commit to it, there is hope for you, your spouse, and your children.
Joe Beam founded LovePath International, an organization that provides marriage help to hurting couples. You can follow him on Facebook and to learn more about saving your marriage, get more information on his intensive weekend workshop that saves marriages in crisis.