Online dating is no longer the internet equivalent of the bar scene. In fact, according to a recent study in Cyberpsychology & Behavior, (Kim et al, 2009) internet daters are more likely to be sociable, have high self-esteem and experience less anxiety in their dating lives.
Contrary to popular belief, this study found no evidence that people turned to online dating because they were desperate or socially inept.
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There was a time in my life where meeting a good woman to date was the equivalent of a lunar eclipse. It occasionally happened but only after long periods of time and the subsequent alignment of the planets. But, then one day, many years ago, after discovering online dating I learned that using the internet to find and meet a mate was not only easy it was smart.
The most surprising thing I discovered, which was confirmed in the study, was how many good quality singles were using the internet in their pursuit of love.
Now, granted there are some individuals who don't play fair and have ulterior motives. But my experience made me realize that if one keeps their eyes and ears open and knows how to screen effectively, these"scammers" are so obvious Helen Keller could spot them.
What I immediately discovered in my online dating experience was how much many of the online daters had in common. We had outgrown the bar scene, most of our single friends were married and there were not a lot of opportunities to meet other singles in our normal every day paths.
If you would have told me years ago that I would have met my wife online I would have laughed at you, called you every name in the book and bet everything I owned against it. But I would have been wrong. And I'm glad I was. Because online dating allowed me to meet the woman who was to become my wife, best friend and mother of my children.
If you're currently single and you're contemplating going online to meet your mate but your ego is having a hard time letting you do it, ask yourself this one question, "Where else can you meet and connect with other singles without leaving the comfort of your own home?"
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