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3 Critical Steps For Finding Love Online

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Is online dating a viable option to find true love or is it simply an online version of the bar scene? Are the men on the internet really looking for relationships or are they simply looking for sex? The truth is it's both! Yes, there are men out there who are only interested in finding women who they can get into bed. But the good news is there are many individuals, both men and women, who are in their 30s, 40s and 50s who are frustrated with the singles scene and who have no other viable option to meet other singles.

Can an individual meet their soul mate online? Absolutely! How do I know? Because several years ago I met the woman who would become my wife, my best friend and the mother of my children online. And what's cool is that I met her in less than 90 days.

Now before I go any further let me tell you that I always thought online dating and the personals were for "losers" and for desperate people, neither of which I considered myself. To this day I'm unsure how it all happened but one of the things I learned is that there are a lot of good single men and women out there who simply don't know where to go and what to do to find the special person that they can share their life with.

Online dating can be a great way of meeting that special person you are looking for, as long as you understand there is a right way and a wrong way to do it. Unfortunately, most singles who are currently using online dating do not understand the difference and as a result online dating has simply become the online version of the bar scene.

I fully believe that with the right mindset and the right knowledge, skills and tools anyone can learn how to find love online. I have listed three critical steps that will help you increase your chances of finding love online

Step #1: Identify Your Ideal Man. If you don't know what you're ideal guy is like how are you going to know when you find him? Being clear on those qualities and characteristics that you'll need to spend the rest of your life with a guy is critical. By knowing what you're looking for it will be easy to recognize when a guy is right for you and when he isn't.

Step #2: Screen Men Carefully. The beauty of online dating is you get to know a lot about a person before you even meet them. The way a person writes their profile, the things they say, how they interact with you both via the internet and the phone often gives you great insight if the guy is who he says he is. Many of those who are lying and misrepresenting themselves will expose themselves when a woman takes her time and keeps her eyes and ears open. The red flags will often be everywhere; it's just a matter of whether or not the woman sees them. Very often women will admit the red flags were there from the beginning but they ignored them because they didn't want to see them. The better you get at screening men the easier and more enjoyable online dating will become.

Step 3: Learn to Say "Next". One of the biggest problems women make in online dating is that they waste too much time and energy on guys who are obviously not right for them. This is why identifying your ideal man is so important. A guy is either going to be right for you or he isn't. No matter how much you try and make a relationship work with Mr. Wrong, it still won't. The sooner you learn to move on the easier it will be for you to find Mr. Right". Online dating is simply a numbers game. Nothing more, nothing less. The more clear you are on what it is you are looking for the easier it will be for you to find it... The second you realize that a guy doesn't have what you need to spend the rest of your life with him there is only one thing for you to do. Say..."NEXT!"

The better you get at doing these three steps the easier it will be for you to learn how to find true love online.

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