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5 Lessons I Am Still Learning From Sex And The City


5 Lessons I Am Still Learning From Sex And The City
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A few dating tips Sex and the City taught me...

Re-watching seasons of this timeless treasure confirmed 5 priceless dating declarations:

  1. You can't change a man. I met my own Mr. Big and despite his actions practically shouting, "Work will always come before you," I pretended not to hear while plotting to cut his blackberry in line for his affection. Turns out, he disappeared as I should have known he would but instead of running after him, I let him go. He was my Mr. Big for a short moment in time compared to Carrie's six year eternity. And yes, in the end Mr. Big morphed into her Boyfriend John, but unless you have six seasons to wait around, change the channel and move on.
  2. You can't judge a date by his cover. Did season one's Charlotte imagine ending up happily ever after with a bald, harry divorce lawyer? Probably not, but watching her bask in his unconventional glory got me thinking about my own search for love. I learned to think outside of my own checkbox to notice who else is out there. Perhaps typecasting your type is a mistake because your blinders are actually blocking out the possibility of your own happy finale.
  3. You have to trust your instincts. Carrie's reaction to Aidan's proposal (breaking out in hives and violently tearing off her practice wedding gown) resonated deep within my gut. Having ended a long-term relationship with a near perfect person left me devastated but ultimately proud of holding true to my instincts. Carrie portrayed a realistic encounter of walking away from a relationship that is just about right because in the end, almost doesn't count more than your intuition.
  4. You will always need your girlfriends. Throughout the character's relationships, marriages, divorces and reconciliations, their friendships remained their one steady constant. If I had to stand firm on one, the paramount rule is to always balance your relationships and your friendships. It is possible, it is worthwhile, so make it work!
  5. Your relationship with yourself is the most important of all. I can drone on and on to the significance of this point but instead I will offer a Carrie Bradshaw quote that wraps up the most important lesson of all.

"Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.” –Carrie Bradshaw

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