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9 Dirty Little Secrets Of Men Who REFUSE To Get Married

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What's stopping modern men from walking down the aisle?

While the numbers of women who want to get married are going up, men are less likely to want to walk down the aisle. 

In the past 15 years the numbers of men who do not, or will not, get married has jumped six percent. More and more men are opting out of marriage and women are asking why.

Ladies, here are the nine dirty little secrets of men who refuse to get married:

1. They Don't Need To Have Sex To Get Married

Men today don’t need to marry you to get sex! You know this is true. I’m all for gender equality, but the changing societal standards for premarital sex has backfired for women who want to move their relationships toward marriage.

2. They Would Rather Live Together Than Get Married

Another change in relationships over the years is the number of couples who opt to cohabitate versus get married. Unlike in the past, most people don't frown upon couples who live together. So ladies, if you want to improve your chances of marriage, don’t move in with the guy.

3. Serial Monogamy > Divorce

It’s easier for men today to have a girlfriend for a while, enjoy all the privileges of marriage without the civil contract, breakup, then move on to another new girlfriend. To men, serial monogamy is easier than going through a divorce.

4. In Fact, They're Terrified Of Divorce

Multiple sources cite that the number one reason men don’t want to get married is that either they themselves have been through a bad divorce or they have witnessed the grief, bad outcomes and money problems that divorces have cost their buddies.

5. They Don't Want To Leave Their Bromances ...

Guys love to hang with the guys, and they feel like a wife will keep them from this vital part of their social life.

6. ... Or Ditch Their Man-Cave

When men live alone, their space is their own. They can hang their moose heads in the living room if they want. All too often when they get married they end up relegated to the unfinished room in the basement, where they have to set up their man-cave to preserve their manhood.

7. They Think They Can Have It Better

These are the perpetual playboys who are always looking for something better. If they’re dating a “9”, they’re on the prowl for that elusive “10.” Expect age to slow these guys down, because as they get older, dating really young women just categorizes them as “creepy old men.”

8. They're Mamma's Boys

Forget these guys. If they’re still living in mommy’s basement, you wouldn’t want to marry them anyway. They’re already married to momma and there’s no room at the Inn for you!

9. They're Die-Hard Bachelors

These are the guys who have hit 50 and have never been married. Don’t get into a relationship with them expecting marriage because according to the research I did, it’s probably never going to happen.

Joan Jerkovich is a Board Certified Life Coach who hosts "The Joan Jerkovich Show" on AM talk radio where she coaches her callers on every topic imaginable. Click Here to listen to her Podcasts, be a caller on her show, or buy her "Life Coaching Insights" book series!

This article was originally published at Reprinted with permission from the author.


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