How Predators Groom Women To Love Them

Predators are imposters that can fool just about anyone.

By Jianny Adamo — Written on Oct 17, 2017

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When a man is quickly captivated by your awesomeness and wants to know everything about you, it’s easy to be swept off your feet.

Finally! Could it be the real thing? Or is there a little gremlin at the pit of your stomach telling you he’s too good to be true?

Beware of the man who very swiftly wants to get into your head, gets under your skin, and in between your sheets.

According to the 2010 report from Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, violence by an intimate partner (rape, physical or stalking) is experienced by 1 in 3 women and 1 in 10 men that is 29 percent or over 34 million women impacted in the United States alone. On average, 24 people per minute are victimized by an intimate partner.

Female victims experience multiple forms of violence in their lifetime including more deaths than men by the hands of an intimate partner or ex-romantic partner.

Often, a psychopath, narcissist or sexual predator can come across as the kind of person you wouldn't suspect because he is "too nice" or he’s in a position of power serving the community. Their double life causes you to drop your guard, allowing them into your life or access to your children without suspecting anything.

Predators are imposters that can fool just about anyone. With an insatiable hunger for power, money, sex, and exploitation, these social predators are characterized by manipulativeness, superficial charm, deception, lack of empathy and remorse, glibness, impulsiveness, a disregard for the law and callousness.

Their inability to make deep connections, be loyal or have concern for the well-being of others produces the most dangerous people on the planet.

An encounter with a psychopath is not accidental. Victims are targeted and chosen for specific reasons. The predator sizes up vulnerabilities and strengths to exploit. Skills in decoding body language and pattern of speech give them an advantage in selecting victims.

Targeting includes a wife selection, which creates the facade of family man and normalcy to better integrate into the community. Predators can often be successful, have a beautiful wife, and the "perfect family" to cover a cold, controlling, physically or sexually violent insecure man.

Grooming involves deceiving you into believing you are safe with the psychopath. Some of these tactics are cyber-stalking and "showing up" at public places where you will be, love bombing with special attention and communication, gifts or acts of generosity and creating opportunities where he can isolate you.

A predator will bully with kindness and disrespect, seduction and persuasion; manipulations and charm.

For you, the whirlwind romance manufactures a soul mate. But the grooming is a calculated process to gain your trust and gradually desensitizing you by violating your boundaries, altering your chemistry and hijacking your ability to love.

You’re the next victim to supply the psychopath with adoration, nurturance, and sex to feed his insatiable hunger for power and control.

The grooming happens quickly, not allowing for adequate time to analyze what is happening, how your life is being consumed by the psychopath or how you’re losing your power.

As a romantic partner, you will have glimpses into his vulnerabilities — feelings of inadequacy, immaturity, insecurities, isolation, and powerlessness — entrapping you further when you hope your love will rescue his darkness.

Once thoroughly hooked, the "nice guy" mask fades revealing a cold and callous individual. Jealousy, hypocrisy, and double standards become the norm. Initially, the psychopath may be open to meeting some of your friends and family but quickly starts withdrawing participation from them.