I love my girlfriends. I really do. Some I’ve had for over 20 years, others I’ve recently added to the mix and they just seem like I’ve known them that long! So, it’s pretty safe to say, I know women and I would even go as far as to say, I love women.
With that said, I would be the first to warn any man out there looking to meet The Woman of His Dreams, to take note – Women are just as good at hiding their personal idiosyncrasies (‘flaws’), as your best buddy is every time he tries to impress the ladies at those hip parties he always inviting you to!
Just like men, women don’t like to be judged too prematurely. They want you to give them a chance, for you to see why they get upset at the waiter, or why they need to have that exact purse, at that exact moment, etc., etc.. Some women have their reasons for seeming to be the B— from Hell. Undoubtedly they want you to get to know better and to give other areas of their personality a chance to outweigh the ‘bad’ parts…But when is it too late to pull back and realize you’re with the wrong woman?
Buyer Beware. It’s an actual statement in many transactions and corresponding contracts that accompany them. It means, it’s 100% up to the ‘buyer’ to check things out to their satisfaction, to insure no surprises at the end. Now, as a man looking to meet the perfect woman (for you), it makes sense to, (before tripping down the aisle with someone you hardly know) to play it safe and really get to know this person on different levels.
Before you take the steps toward letting your heart open wide for this new woman, take some time to reflect on what attributes you admire, what kind of person you see yourself with, how you’d like certain situations to play out.
If you take some time to think about yourself, what you prefer, what your demeanor is in certain circumstances, your moral, ethical and ‘manner meter’, of sorts, you’ll be a better judge of what behavior is deemed ‘ok’ by you. What’s right for your buddy may not be right for you. Maybe he’s into the make-up sex or the screaming matches, doesn’t make it wrong, just not what draws you in for the long haul! Once you develop a good sense of self, you will be better aware of personality traits that will suit you over time.
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A woman can play seemingly ‘perfect’ for a while so don’t let the amount of time you’ve been seeing her function as your ‘green light’ to march ahead of yourself. Try different situations and see how she maneuvers through them and let that be your example of who she is when everything isn’t going her way.