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We all desire a happy and fulfilling relationship. You know, that partner who is our perfect half who can help bring out the best in us.
Unfortunately for many of us, we have been exposed to so many unhealthy and less-than-fulfilling relationships in our lives that we don't know what a truly healthy relationship even looks and/or feels like.
Here are 10 characteristics of a vibrantly healthy relationship:
1. Both partners know that they are responsible for their own individual happiness. Many people unfortunately fall into the bad habit of believing and expecting that our partner is meant to be our source of all happiness, love and fulfillment in our lives. However, in a truly vibrant and healthy relationship, neither partner expects the other to be the source of all their happiness in life. Both people know and understand that they themselves are responsible for their own happiness and well-being. They each know that they are there to support and help one another, but they both know that they are ultimately responsible for themselves.
2. Neither person is really trying to control or "fix" the other person. If one person is more of a procrastinator while the other always gets their work done early, the other person isn't going to try to "fix" them by pushing them to get their work done early in a healthy relationship. Both people respect one another's differences. One doesn't try to force the other to change or be anything different then themselves.
The reality is that nobody wants to be changed or fixed — especially if it's unsolicited! If the person really truly wants to change, then they will ask for help on their own terms and in their own way. Change isn't going to happen through nagging or force.
3. The relationship is balanced. No one person has any more power over decisions made as a couple than the other. Both people have an equal say and have equal control over decisions made and both equally respect each other as a different and unique human being.
Now, it may be that the decisions made are different for each person. Such as, one person is more focused on interior decorations while the other is more focused on finances because it better highlights each person's strengths. But aggregately, everything is 50-50.
4. Conflicts are dealt with head-on and then dropped. In a heathy relationship, conflicts aren't a deal breaker. Just because a conflict happens, it doesn't signal that it's time to just check out and move on to something else. Rather, the conflict is seen as an opportunity to learn and grow. Both sides openly share their feelings and views honestly and with respect.
Conflict is accepted as a natural part of life and any frustrations are dealt with early rather than repressed and brought back up time and time again.
5. Feelings are shared openly and honestly. Both people share their genuine feelings with one another freely. Both partners respect and accept the other's feelings. Expressing one another's true feelings aren't repressed because both partners know that by not sharing them and that by not accepting the other person's feelings, it will cause conflicts later on.
6. Each person makes the time to take care of themselves. Both people in the relationship understand and know that self-care is an absolutely vital component for a healthy relationship. They know that if they don't take care of themselves and do things for themselves that they will be stressed, drained, and exhausted. They know that when they don't take care of themselves, they have little love to give to their partner.
7. Both partners are willing to put the relationship before themselves. In a healthy relationship, both partners are able and willing to consider their partner when making decisions. They don't just go off and plan a trip for themselves without discussing it with the other person. They make room in their lives for the other person and are willing to work together as a unit.
8. Both people understand and accept that they're not going to agree on everything. In a healthy relationship, both partners know that it is perfectly okay to agree to disagree. They know that just because one partner has one viewpoint, it doesn't mean that the other has to completely agree. They know that having differences in opinion and beliefs doesn't have to be a deal breaker.
9. They both truly value the relationship. Both partners are loyal to one another and willing to work through conflicts together. They both truly believe in the relationship and are committing to the lessons and growth that come while being together — despite the challenges that come up.
10. They want to be together simply for the sake of being together. For some of us, we can find ourselves staying in a relationship because we want some kind of security. That can be emotional, physical, financial, or whatever. In a truly healthy relationship, both people want to be together because they genuinely want to be together for the sake of living a life with the other person. Security isn't a primary motivation to be in the relationship, as the motivation of genuine love runs so much deeper than the security that can be gained on a physical level.
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