She shows her representative. Yes, you know the one. She’s always on her best behavior. She loves sports, sleeping in the finest lingerie, cooking the best meals, and wearing stilettos to the movies. She knows just how visual your man is, and she is tantalizing all of his senses. And, she’s not stopping. You won’t do it…but she will do it. In the meantime, you are at the mall in your ponytail, sneakers, and oversized t-shirt. Enough said…
She still remembers who she is. Although the anxious single woman really wants to be involved with your man, she still doesn’t lose herself in him. She loves to travel (so she does); enjoys going out with her girlfriends (so she does); and she is intent on making a lot of money (so she does). Even though your man could potentially become a part of her life, he is not the be all and end all. She still recognizes who she is in the midst of what she has going on in her relationships, and she doesn’t change simply because someone has started paying her some attention. And even if he stopped paying her attention, she’d simply move on. The anxious single woman knows that there are many, many other men—just like your man who are waiting to be taken.
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As harsh as these things sound, it happens every single day. I am a firm believer that infidelity doesn’t oftentimes happen overnight, but it does happen. These anxious, single women are taking our men by storm, and we are all simply sitting back and watching it happen. The ironic part is that they are doing those things that you used to do in order to get his attention in the first place. Yet, you want to place all of the blame on your man for falling for her. It’s time to take the power back from them. It’s time to set an example to the anxious single woman that you are not one to contend with. You too can take this power back with one little secret—do the same thing. Go ahead. Give it a try. You already have two major advantages: (1) love and (2) the fact that the two of you have been together for some time.
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You can easily rekindle the spark in your relationship by simply doing what you used to do that ignited the spark. You don’t have to do it all overnight. Heavens, he may start to think that you are a crazy woman if you do that. But, gradually get back in to really paying attention to how you present yourself to him, what you are wearing, how you smell, how often you wash your hair, etc. If you know that you’ve gotten out of shape, simply find a new and exciting gym class to join. The two of you may even find excitement in joining a gym or taking long walks or jogs each day. Show him a nicer you. If all he’s seen over the last few weeks has been the mean side of you, try showing him a new side. Who cares that the two of you are still in the midst of a silly argument. Try to take an interest in something that he loves—sports, video games, or playing with his dogs. You might find that you have a genuine interest in whatever it is after long. And, remember—once you get back to whom your man first fell in love with, and that anxious single woman floats by, your man will be so into you, hook, line, and sinker, that he will not be hungry for her bait. And, that’s just the way you like it—right? Right.