3. "I will be more generous." Researchers from the University of Virginia’s National Marriage Project recently studied the role of generosity in the marriages of 2,870 men and women. They found a direct correlation between the men and women who had the highest generosity scores and were "very happy" in their marriages. Generosity means that you will go above and beyond the usual routine. It can be tough to break out of the norm, but think of some small gestures that will mean a lot: make your partner coffee in the morning, write a "just because" note, offer to do an extra errand or, just ask "Is there anything I can do for you?" The simple act of asking goes a long way.
Personal Goal Bonus – Your partner is likely to mirror your actions with increased support.
4. "I will be more spontaneous." You’ve been together for awhile and have your routine down to a science. While structure is often efficient and comforting, the cost is a loss of spontaneity. What’s so good about doing the unexpected? Well, it triggers the excitement hormones in your brain: dopamine, pheromones and serotonin. These are the chemicals responsible for the "falling in love" feeling. To release a torrent of those hormones, shake things up a bit. Plan a surprise. Pick an activity neither one of you has done before. This will inject some excitement and freshness into your relationship, stirring up interest for both of you.
Personal Goal Bonus — Well, let's just say these excitement hormones translate to the bedroom. Bored In Bed? 3 Ways To Spice Up Your Relationship
Doing these things will not only ensure that your relationship is strong, but that you'll also have a cheerleader in your corner, making it easier to go after your personal goals.