I have a little confession… I love watching Millionaire Matchmaker, & sometimes if the mood strikes me “The Bachelorette” (I’m not a huge fan of the Bachelor, but that’s another conversation.)
Personally I love listening to Patti on Millionaire Matchmaker go on & on about how successful she is at matchmaking, yet episode after episode showcases very few hookups. I’m going to be honest with you… I am a pretty bad matchmaker …
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The sad truth is that women pay hundreds & sometimes thousands each year going to astrologers, psychics, matchmakers & high end dating sites to understand and/or find their romantic prospects with very little success.
In fact using these services can be detrimental to your romantic health.
1. No Accountability
Women who have the most delicious love lives are proactive in their romantic adventures. They understand that if they want something different romantically, then they must do something different romantically. When you use these services as your primary guidance in you love life, well you aren’t holding yourself accountable for the huge role you have in creating the love life you want.
Astrologers & Psychics… I have yet to hear one say to a woman… “You know, when you act batshit crazy around him, well that’s not hot.” Most of the time they will tell you everything that is wrong with guy with no true direction. I piss women off constantly, because I hold her responsible for what’s going on with men in her life. I make her accountable, which makes her a feminine force to be reckoned with romantically and adored by many men;)
2. Heavily Weighted In Favor Of Men
Matchmaking facts… most of these agencies and sites have more women available than men. Men are designed to pursue, matchmaking diminishes his ability to pursue a woman. Primarily because he has so many options, no need for him to step up to the plate. This short circuits his natural instinct that builds lasting attraction for you. Period.
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