A Woman's Place

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A Woman's Place

Whispers at the water cooler of life.

I hear women gathering and grounding, stepping into the Goddess Flow.  Some rumble that that men are not required.

A fire of womanly wiles and wills is burning. Polarizing events involving females are showing up daily. Marissa Mayer, CEO of Yahoo, bans telecommuting.   Sheryl Sandberg releases her book telling women to “Lean in”, and CNN reports on the adverse effects the Steubenville Rape case sentence will have on the perpetrators, while ignoring the victim.

Random acts of suppression and freedom?  I doubt it. There is a connection between everyone of these “coincidences”.  Women did once rule the world, lightly and well, and they were vanquished.  Beaten, raped, tortured and silenced.   What happens to a world of powerful beings left to scrap in the mud for tattered glory in the spoils of war?   Beatings behind closed doors and sometimes in the marketplace.

Women have been trained for 5,000 plus years to be the good little woman.  Silent, acquiescent, fearful.  Jostling for position.  To be the possession of the highest man.  The General’s wife, not the slave. This war has conditioned all of us, since our hunter gatherer days and made us all perpetrators to keep the peace.  No one is blameless.   We have kept our daughters in line, getting them fixated on their appearance.  Pretty disposable biddable things.  Granting men permission to be rulers by force, and creating a brutal manipulative system of control.

Even now women who dare to break the unspoken rules by speaking too loud or showing too much skin is ostracized.   Statistics prove that in the work place when a woman dresses ‘inappropriately’ she is shunned, punished more by her own sex than by the men.   Phrases are bandied about like “she was asking for it”  while turning a blind eye to a man’s misbehavior.  The CNN coverage of Steubenville is a perfect example of this.  Ignoring the humiliation and violent anger of rape. The bestial beating down of a young girl by the establishment.

The violent act of putting a woman in her place. Of putting all women in their place.

A pattern we have lived with and have abided by, for centuries. Poppy Harlow’s and Candy Crowley CNN report remind us that shame and blame is what has kept us "safe".  Women in the dark, guards for their jailers. There is a scientific term for this.

The Stockholm Syndrome.   What is called the capture-bonding response in evolutionary psychology.  Talked about in terms of obvious violent scenarios, but I believe that our society is still acting out these “safety” behaviors that were set up thousands of years ago.  Women were controlled by violence, shame and fear of death or being captured by another tribe.  Survival is still our strongest life force.  Men kept the peace and provided food and safety.  Hunter gatherers we are still.

Silence is no longer needed.  Shame no longer required.  Yet women have been walking behind the men for so long we still stand in their shadow and fear to be seen by habit.

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