3 Surefire Ways To Affair-Proof Your Marriage

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Heartbreak, Sex

While you tell yourself your marriage isn't that bad, your spouse might be having an affair.

Here's a dose of reality: Today one person in every three couples is having an affair.

You probably realize that lying is a pervasive part of society. Deception is everywhere, from politics, to food labeling. While cheating on your spouse and jeopardizing your marriage has been around forever, it has never been easier thanks to technology.

What you may not realize is that the same smartphone that makes everything available at the tapping of your fingers, also makes it possible to inquire and engage countless, willing, married and single people for sex.  

Today, online dating is the primary source of all relationships. However, it's estimated that up to 30 percent of profiles on singles sites are actually covers for married people. Infidelity websites are increasingly popular, and the largest, Ashley Madison, boasts 35 million members and growing.   

Now back to that wonderful smart phone of yours. According to affair website Victoria Milan, 45 percent of people have cheated or contemplated cheating on their spouse because their partner pays too much attention to their smartphone.

This is ironic because their partner could actually be using that phone to cheat. This is actually the preferred method of searching for and interacting with affair partners. 

There are countless tips online to keep a person's secret life undiscovered, and anyone can pick from the numerous apps available that cover their tracks. Some examples include:

  • Vaulty Stocks: Looks like you're checking the stock market, but put in your secret pin and access your hidden pictures and videos.
  • Call and Text Eraser: Does just what you think it will, easily erase your naughty calls and messages.
  • Tiger Text: Makes messages disappear after a certain amount of time, similar to Snapchat for pictures. Invisible Text allows messages, pictures and videos to self-destruct.
  • Slydial: Makes it look like you tried to call your spouse back without having to talk to them.
  • Black SMS: Allows you to receive encrypted messages that appear as harmless images.

This is just a mere sample of the layers of cover that are available in today's technologically advanced world that keep people from getting caught cheating. To prevent affairs and keep your marriage rock solid there are plenty of things you can do.

Here are three easy ways to begin to affair proof your marriage:

1. Show Your Partner The Appreciation That They Deserve

Make them feel loved, truly special and valued by you. Ignore them at your own peril because the unappreciated spouse is the first to cheat. You cannot unintentionally neglect your partner and imagine that everything is OK.

2. Pay Attention To Them

Put your smartphone down and engage with them at a deeper level. Get curious about what's going on with them and spend more intimate time together.

Be the one to initiate more playfulness, lightness, fun, sensuality and adventure. Do not wait for your partner to go first.

3. Get To Know And Understand Their Business Life 

Curiosity pays off here too. If possible, visit them at their office. Attend job functions and meet the people your spouse works with. Get engaged in their life outside of your home. Be willing to listen to your spouse talk about their business issues. Let them know how proud you are of them in this context. Be willing to learn about their passions and interests.

While we're caught up in our own busy lives, our partners are doing the same. If you want to sustain love and passion for a lifetime, then you must make your relationship the priority that it deserves. 

The needs of your partner and the relationship must come before your own needs if you want to elevate your love life. The success of your relationship will always reflect how well you do just that.

Get help if you need it. My book, The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle, has loads of specific strategies to begin to immediately shift even the most difficult marriages. You can also connect with me at jeff@peakresultscoaching.com to get my direct input on your situation in a confidential, no obligation conversation in person or over Skype.


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