From Soulmates to Separating...What Happened?!


From Soulmates to Separating...What Happened?!
5 ways to bring your relationship back from the brink

4.  Listen to your partner’s goals for the marriage.  Be as interested and responsive as you can.  You might not be able to give your partner exactly what he or she wants, but offer empathy and avoid getting defensive.  When the listening gets tough, remind yourself how much this soulmate relationship means to you.

5.  Work as a team to meet both partners’ individual needs.  Forget the exhausting tug-of-war and pull together.  In my Manhattan marriage counseling practice I use the metaphor of a jigsaw puzzle.  Each partner’s needs and wants are puzzle pieces.  You both put your pieces on the table and then together you figure out how to assemble the puzzle.

Couples who move into this new, more autonomous stage of marriage discover that they are creating a deeper bond, one that includes a real appreciation of each partner’s uniqueness.  Why not try it? You’re likely to feel more like soulmates than ever.

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Jean Fitzpatrick

Marriage/Couples Counselor

Jean Fitzpatrick is a New York psychotherapist and marriage counselor.  Jean's practice includes individual and couples, and she specializes in affair recoverypre-marriageprebaby and postpartum counseling. Jean is a member of the elite Marriage Friendly Therapists network and the American Association of Pastoral Counselors.  Jean has been interviewed in The New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Chicago Tribune, Women's Health, on CNN and in USA Today, the NY Daily News, and other media outlets where the subject is marriage and family life. Jean's articles on family life and emotional and spiritual growth have appeared in many national magazines over the past twenty-five years, including Parents,Working Mother, The New York Times Magazine, and Family Circle, and she has written 6 books on family life.  

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Location: New York, NY
Credentials: LP, MA, Other
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Infidelity / Affair Recovery, Marriage
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