As an author, I’m forced to consider beginnings all of the time. How do I start a new blog? How do I begin an article for a website? How should I start the next chapter in my book? The beginning of anything is so important. The start of something means you have initiated. You have taken the opportunity to cause the process of doing something. You are introducing something new. The fact you are introducing something means there is some level of consideration in what you are doing.
That brings me back to the point I consider beginnings quite often. In our relationships, we need to consider beginnings and new beginnings frequently. When it comes to relationships with our significant others or our spouses, there should be a foundation of love, honor and respect “in the beginning.” We MUST respect one another in several forms. We need to respect one’s time, attention, space, each other’s place in our lives and most importantly as human beings. We also must love our better half. If the relationship is a long term relationship, there will be love on an emotional level. We need to be able to express our love to one another as well. Become fluent in your man or woman’s Love Language (read The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman).
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Those two points of the foundation are important, but the one I want to discuss is the one we often forget--honor. What we want to begin this year is honor in our relationships. Some of the definitions of honor are: high public esteem, to hold in high respect, merit. We have to honor each other in relationships. I know many women who are dating or married who feel like men don’t honor them in relationships. Some women don’t feel honored by their husband or significant other to be the mother of their children. Some women don’t feel honored to be the person who takes care of the household, often because the man takes it for granted that’s what she’s supposed to do—NOT! I know some women who are not honored by men because they are career women. In 2013, we’re changing this mindset. Men, don’t just compliment your wives and significant others. Praise them for what they do in your life in front of others. “High Public Esteem” isn’t about fame or fake praise, it’s about honoring your woman as a wife, caregiver, mother, accountant, mechanic, tutor, lover and whatever one of many other hats she may wear during her day.