If you really want to elicit the appropriate response during this conversation, you may want to clarify what you are looking for. If you need to vent, you might say “Darling, can I vent for a moment?” If you need advice, you may say, “Can I get your thoughts on what happened at work today and how you would handle the situation?” If you simply want to share an opinion, consider saying something like, “Something happened and I want to share my opinion about it with you.”
Clarifying what you want to share and how you want to share helps out the male species. By nature, we want to fix everything. I mean, being a man I understand the philosophy ’if it doesn’t need fixing, why are you bringing it up?’ That’s just how we are wired. We can be re-wired, but it takes a little work. With love and patience, you will find even the weakest conversationalist can be a great listening ear for his woman.
You will find you can share everything that’s going on in your life at the moment. The thing to remember is the moment may be right for you to share, but it may not be right for him (or her) to listen. Learning to discern those mutually beneficial moments are the building blocks of long-lasting, great relationships.
© Jay Hurt/2013