Successful Men Are Attracted To Successful Women

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Successful Men Are Attracted To Successful Women
Don't waste your time with men who aren't.

Dear Jasbina, 

What can women do about the "intimidation" factor? When men learn I am highly educated and successful, they often get intimidated. It doesn't make for a successful dating life. It's also so disheartening, especially because I've worked so hard to achieve these goals.

 

Dear Successful, 

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling disheartened. That won't be of any help in the dating process. I think it's time for a mindset shift. I'd like you to consider your educational and professional accomplishments as assets, as opposed to liabilities, in your dating efforts. To help you get there, I'd like to share statistics that you (and other highly accomplished female readers) will find reassuring.

Nearly half of all single women believe their professional success is intimidating to the men they meet. However, a 2005 article in the American Journal of Sociology, based on a study of interpersonal relationships in 60 communities nationwide, concludes that women in positions of power are sexier to men than women in less powerful positions.

According to research by Christine Whelan, an Oxford-educated scholar of social history and author of Marry Smart: The Intelligent Woman’s Guide to True Love

  • 71% of high-achieving men said a woman's educational or career success makes her more desirable as a wife.
  • 92% of men who describe themselves as either "very successful" or "successful" said that they are more attracted to women who are successful in their own careers.
  • 89% of high-achieving men said they'd like to marry, or have already married, a woman who is as or more intelligent than they are.
  • 68% of single high-achieving men report that they would like to marry a woman who is as committed to her career as they are to theirs.

Now are some guys turned off or intimidated by successful women? Absolutely! Just don't waste your valuable time with them. The findings above suggest that there are many guys out there who will view your accomplishments favorably.

The good news is that it is a myth that men are generally turned off by successful women. The bad news is that this myth can insidiously become a self-fulfilling prophecy for successful women who believe it to be true. By buying into this myth, some successful women can be their own worst enemies in dating.

So what can accomplished women do? Read my blog post – My Success Intimidates Men. What Do I Do? 8 Tips To Help.

Jasbina Ahluwalia is an Indian American attorney-turned-entrepreneur, relationship expert, radio show host and matchmaker/dating coach. She is the founder and president of Intersections Match by Jasbina, the only premier full-service selective search, dating / relationship coaching & online dating support firm – for Indian singles. Jasbina is also the host of Intersections Talk Radio, a monthly holistic lifestyle show – conversations with published authors/experts on relationships and health and wellness. She has received worldwide press (Oprah, Chicago Tribune, Inc., Entrepreneur Magazine) including TV, video and Radio.

For more information, please visit www.IntersectionsMatch.com. Feel free to submit a Question to be considered for this column to Jasbina directly at info@interectionsmatch.com

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