Dating is no easy feat. We all have a tree in our backyard that we have stopped to admire, and then proceed to bang our head on after a bad date. I realize it can be very frustrating for you gals to decipher what we guys are saying during the dating process.
What does it all mean? What is the true status of your relationship? Never fear, your Bad Swami is here to help you decode these mysterious phrases, and offer up relationship guidance. Let a man’s man, a stallion among stallions, a male specimen with truckloads of je ne sais quoi (among those possessing only handfuls of je ne sais quoi) walk you through these phrases in detail, and give you the unvarnished truth about what they are likely to mean, and what you should do next to save your sanity.
“I need space.”
What it means: This means that the relationship is progressing faster than he wants. It could be that you are pushing for a permanent commitment too hard. Or it could be that he feels that the relationship has reached the critical point of ‘marriage or break-up’.
What to do: You can step off a bit by reducing the texting, emailing, Skyping, and phone calling for awhile. Don’t eagerly answer his every attempt at communication. Do your own ‘thang’, and forget about him for a while. If he responds well and comes back around, you can continue moving forward with him, albeit a bit more slowly and cautiously. If he disappears, it’s time to move on. If he tries to pursue you after you’ve moved on, don’t go back. Some guys only want what they can’t have, so if you return to reconnect, he’ll turn as cold as kulfi, and start whining about his space again.
Article Contributor: Sanjit Singh is an entrepreneur, speaker and author. He is the author of ‘Are You Indian – A Humorous Guide To Growing Up Indian In America. He is a contributor to the humor blog, Bad Swami. He holds an MBA from UCLA Anderson School of Management.