Are you interested? Tell him with your eyes.
Jasbina asks Dr. Diana Kirschner, "In your book Find Your Soulmate Online In Six Simple Steps you provide tips for a first date. You said something that I think our listeners will find compelling. You say, 'Silence is where flirting happens at a deeper level.' Tell us about that. I know that a lot of people, especially on a first date, feel the pressure if there's a silence to fill in that gap to avoid an awkward silence. Tell me what you mean by, 'Silence is where flirting happens on a deeper level.'"
Dr. Diana Kirschner: "Your charm and charisma is not a matter of words. Even your shyness is very magnetic, especially from a woman to a man. Your shyness can be very magnetic. If you take a little glance at the eyes of the person in that quiet way, that's a very powerful kind of flirting. Maybe you give just a little smile.
The most intimate moments don't involve words.
- They involve making eye contact.
- They involve sending energy through your mouth, smiling, or sometimes a touch.
- It can be a simple touch. Knowing that, you don't have to be afraid if you're shy.
It's charming. Once you accept that and give a shy glance or smile, the guy can fall for you. Words sometimes come between people. They make things less intimate, especially if you're just chattering away on autopilot in a social way. Just looking up for a brief minute is very sweet. It can be amazing.
- There is a quietness.
- They are looking into each other's eyes.
- There might be a touch on the wrist. It's subtle.
That is where you see them connecting. Embrace your shyness because that's where the sweet moments can occur. You can even say, "I feel shy." That's endearing. That's darling.
The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Dr. Diana Kirschner. The entire interview transcript is at: Diana Kirschner Interview: Online Dating Strategies. Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio — Jasbina's Lifestyle Show. Listen to the entire interview on Blog Talk Radio: Find Your Soulmate Online – In Six Simple Steps: Diana Kirschner. Listen to the entire interview on iTunes.
Jasbina Ahluwalia is an Indian American Attorney-turned-Entrepreneur, Relationship Expert, Radio Show Host and Matchmaker/Dating Coach. She is the Founder & President of Intersections Match by Jasbina, the only Premier Full-Service Selective Search, Dating/Relationship Coaching & Online Dating Support Firm — For Indian Singles. Jasbina is also the host of Intersections Talk Radio, a monthly holistic lifestyle show – conversations with published authors/experts on relationships and health and wellness. She has received worldwide press (Oprah, Chicago Tribune, Inc., Entrepreneur Magazine) including TV and Video & Radio. For more information, please visit www.IntersectionsMatch.com. Feel free to submit a question to be considered for this column to Jasbina directly at email@example.com
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This article was originally published at intersectionsmatch.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.