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How Online Dating Has Totally Evolved The Matchmaking Game

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Technology has revolutionized the art of love.

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Julie Spira and Dr. Dale Koppel: 

Julie, you wrote in your book, "My position as a cyber-dating expert encompassed over 250 dates in my 30's, 40's and 50's." Tell us about any differences you found dating online in your 30's versus your 40's.

Julie Spira Responds:

Internet Boom

I think the biggest difference that I can share with you is that, when I first joined an online dating site in 1994, there weren't a lot of people online. There weren't even a lot of people with email addresses at that time.

There was a huge stigma associated with online dating. When I first signed up and put up my first profile in 1994, didn't even exist yet.

I went on Love at AOL. That was my first introduction to online dating.

Dating Pool

The dating pool was much smaller. I felt embarrassed. I said, "I can't tell anybody I'm doing this. Isn't this supposed to be for losers?" I kept my mouth shut because there really was a certain stigma associated with online dating.

Now, if you look at the online dating industry today, you'll see that every single major media outlet did a piece on Valentine's Day on online dating.

To have the phone ring constantly for quotes for online dating stories has now become a popular, regular way of living your life.

The New Norm

If you go on a date now, someone will say, "You had a date last night. What site did you meet him on?" That wouldn't have happened 15 years ago.

The above is an excerpt from Jasbina's interview with Julie Spira and Dale Koppel. The entire interview transcript is at: Julie SpiraDale Koppel InterviewInsights In Online Dating. Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk RadioJasbina's Lifestyle Show

Listen to the entire interview on Blog Talk Radio: Navigating Online Dating: Discussion with Dr. Dale Koppel & Julie SpiraListen to the entire interview on iTunes.

Jasbina Ahluwalia has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of The East and West. She is an Indian American Attorney-turned-Entrepreneur, Relationship ExpertRadio Show Host & Matchmaker/Dating Coach, and Founder & President of Intersections Match by Jasbina.

Jasbina is also the host of Intersections Talk Radio, a monthly holistic lifestyle show. Visit here for more information and submit a question to Jasbina directly at Also visit How Do I Tell If A Guy Is Worth My Time?, Dating the Busy Bee and Sadie Hawkins Relationship.

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