The REAL Reasons Why Cougars Seek Out Younger Men

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Is it really just all about the sex?

Older women make better mates because they don’t have time for games. Cougars just want sex and aren’t seeking an exclusive long-term relationship with a younger guy.

Cougars seem to want what a good majority of men want – a no strings attached hookup, right? Not necessarily.

It actually depends on the situation.

There are two types of cougars: first, there're the ones that love a good hook up with young, fit-types. Ones that "think like a man" – looking for the hottest-looking guy she can get. Second, there're the ones that put up the facade being on the hunt, but truly is seeking a strong connection. Not an emotionless fling.

And then this is where some of the cliches are proven to be true. Younger men like to please more while the attention of a good-looking younger guy is very flattering for a cougar, and builds confidence.

But that’s not the whole story. A ‘cubs’ enthusiasm in and out of the bedroom is also really contagious, and something a lot of women enjoy discovering.

Karen Lee Poter, author and talk show host of The Karen Lee Poter Show and Sex Talk With My Mom, believes that the latter is true: “Cougar dating is far more than just about the sex. It's a connection to someone who's confident, young spirited, independent, and wise. Dating someone younger is a preference for an experienced woman who doesn't play games and is self-sufficient.”

But what do actual, real-life cougars think?

Maria Cedar, a freelance model, is 52 years young who's dating age range is from late 20s to early 40s. Unlike Porter, Cedar thinks that some Cougars go after younger guys just for sex. She even said that for her, sex is “a major part of it”.

But a very important factor is that: “younger men are so much more appreciative being with someone that is more mature ... and I am not talking in years, but intellectually and sexually.” Cougars just know what they want and what they like.

Cedar thinks that the sex is better with a younger guy “because a cub wants to please and give more than take". While it's fun to be with a younger, sexy, and ripped guy and "just appreciate two bodies enjoying each other”, Cedar admits that in most cases she DOES want more than just sex.

Lucy Jones, relationship and cougar dating expert for Toyboy Warehouse, is 43 years young and now exclusively dates men in their 20s, after being married to a man 10 years her senior for eight years.

Jones doesn’t go into relationships with a pre-determined mindset of what the relationship will be. She enjoys “both serious and short-term relationships with younger men and takes each relationship as it comes.” Jones currently has a younger partner who is 25 years old.

As you can see, you can’t put all cougar/cub relationships into one basket. “There’s no limit as to what a relationship between an older woman and a younger man can entail, whether that’s crazy, exciting sex, deep trusting friendship or the start of a new life together. Sex is the great perk of it all, it’s not the limit,” concludes Jones.

Jarone Ashkenazi is a ​Freelance PR Consultant and Writer.


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