When is it Time to Move On?


When is it Time to Move On?
Learn how to spot the signs when a love relationship is over and how to best move forward with ease.

I’m convinced we know when a love relationship is over. The challenge is that our mind chatter keeps us locked into the why, how come, if only, wishing, wanting, etc. This prevents us from listening to our intuition — the sure way to know whether or not it’s time to move on.  

So, when is it time to move on? If you’ve continually experienced these situations, find the nearest exit door.


What are the signs?

  • His behavior doesn’t match what he says.
  • He doesn’t treat you well.
  • He doesn’t respect or value you.
  • You don’t respect yourself or know your worth.
  • He doesn’t introduce you to his friends and family.
  • He keeps you separate from his friends and family.
  • If you work in the same place, he ignores you, doesn’t acknowledge or speak to you.
  • There’s no contact or very little contact in between the times you see each other.
  • You continually question his behavior or the status of your relationship.
  • You’re depressed and sad more than you are optimistic and happy.
  • You’re not a better person with him in your life.
  • You’re not able to be who you really are.
  • You find yourself obsessing over every single detail and not knowing what to do.
  • You’ve had the “where do I stand”, “what’s going on with our relationship”, “how do you feel about me/us” talk with him and still have no answer.

How can I spot these signs?

Women tend to put more focus on what their partner says versus what they do. My experience is that women place 80% of their focus on what he says and 20% on what he does. What he does is equally if not more important than what he says. For instance, if he’s constantly telling you how special you are but spends very little time with you, his actions are speaking loud and clear. Are you listening?

If you have doubts and are questioning your partner’s actions, your intuition is telling you something important. Pay attention because the answer to, “What should I do?” will reveal itself based on your partner’s behaviors and actions. Ask yourself, “What are my partner’s actions revealing to me?” Ultimately, you want and deserve someone whose words match his actions.

How can I move forward with ease?  Related article: How to Move On From a Past Relationship

Until you find “the one”, you’ll always be moving on. Each time I’ve moved on, it’s brought me closer to knowing what I want, don’t want and eventually “the one.” These practices have helped me move forward with more ease and I believe they can do the same for you.

Accept and be present

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
Article contributed by

Janet Ong Zimmerman

Relationship Coach

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Co-Author of International Best Seller "Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life"

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